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December 09, 2003Do you take this man? ... Hell NO!!Ok, so Adam has once again asked for my not-so-expert opinion on a subject which I actually have experience in... not being married. So many men have asked me why I'm not pushing to get married, I'll give you two reasons, I am only 22 years old (though nearing 23!) and I enjoy being single. Plain and simple. Adam and I actually talked about this the other night after I went to a company function. I sat at the 'single's table' where the laughter roared and the happy tears rolled down our cheeks. We spanned in age from 22 to late 50's and every single (literally) person enjoyed themselves so thoroughly, that we continued the party at a local bar after the rest of the crowd had dispersed. But sitting at that table and looking around at the other tables I realized two things about my coworkers: 1. I was one of two people who has not been married ever (the other is a 33 year old man who came close once, but bailed) 2. There were very few people there (meaning one or two) who hadn't at some time been divorced. Tales from a Yeti Suit linked with Erin, A Single Girl In The South Comments
Ah, the exuberance of youth. The problem with viewing yourself as having time is two-fold. Eventually, you'll see yourself as not having enough time. And then there's the question of what to do with the time you have. Are you seeking self-improvement? Is the partying fun, or is it a mad dash to be doing something, anything to keep your youth alive? People who get too serious young tend to feel they've missed out. People who aren't serious enough feel they wasted their time. Posted by: TheYeti at December 10, 2003 09:30 AM22 is still very young. Marriage wasn't even in my vocabulary at 22! Posted by: sugarmama at December 10, 2003 10:58 AMWhat is this "marriage" you speak of? It sounds like a curious tribal ritual... Posted by: Adam at December 10, 2003 11:23 AMYou can't be having a mid-life crisis at 22. Not only are you too young, but a mid-life crisis is when you realize you don't have enough time to do all the things you want to do; when you feel the walls of past choices closing in; and when you realize that life is fleeting, and that no one has enough time. You are having the youth crisis: now that your time is your own, and life spreads out before you in all directions, you both don't know what road to take and want to take them all. Now the question is what to do with your life; later it will be what do with what time remains. You'll wake up one morning and wonder how did you get to this point; this is not what you chose, this is not what you planned, yet here you are anyway. In the words of Holman, "what happened, what the hell happened!?!" Don't worry about all that now though, enjoy yourself. It's what youth is for. And 22 is young enough not to worry about marriage. Just don't hold on to one form of joy so long that you miss out on other forms that will last much longer. Posted by: Kevin "fun" Murphy at December 10, 2003 12:53 PMContrary to the opinions already posted here (sue me, I'm late, I'm catching up on my reading after the holidays)...you have plenty of time. Most of the divorces in the world are caused by people who rush into marriage because they're afraid the marriage train will pass them by. If you're still not married at age 35, then is the time to worry. As far as youthful exuberance, there's not a damn bit of partying that I did at age 22 that I regret. Not one bit. Now are the best years of my life, but damn, looking back, I'd trade a year of 38 for a week of 22 anyday. ;) Just once, though. SG Posted by: spirit_grrrl at January 9, 2004 02:35 PMPost a comment
 
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