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November 06, 2003I Just Want Your Extra Time and Your -*-*- *-*-*- Kiss!Welcome to the Kissing Booth! Step right up, lay your quarters down, and get a gratuitous kiss! For those of you who are new to the Kissing Booth, it is the Blogosphere’s weekly collection of relationship articles. Relationships are loosely defined here and may be between lovers, parents, siblings, even pets! If you have a post, column, or article about relationships that you’d like to see featured in the Kissing Booth next week, just email it to kissbooth-at-singlesouthernguy.com. Please include the title of your post, it’s perma-link, and sentence or two describing the piece. Entries are due by 6 EST each Wednesday. To submit a question for “Ask Adam” you can use the same email address(we still need one for next week). And with no further adieu, I give you this week’s Kissing Booth! Leading off with a most appropriate topic is Jay of One Fine Jay who lets us know “how to make kissing an ambient experience, and can prolong it quite well.” Sarah from “Taken In Hand” offers up a quite delicious exploration of one of the most loved Shakespearean pieces of all time, “The Taming of the Shrew.” (my personal favorite version is the Richard Burton/Elizabeth Taylor film. Another fun version is the Bruce Willis/Cybill Shepherd “Moonlighting” adaptation). Sarah teams with Robin to discuss the entire idea of Internet dating. I’ve never done the internet dating thing, but if I ever jumped in, I would definitely read this first. Lisa tackles the affects of porn on relationships and what does and doesn’t count. Fresh off the success of his popular NotDating(tm) series for urban people in their twenties, The Yeti starts anew with a shorter program called Dating(tm) for men 30-35. He has yet to share the details on-line. Kelley offers a quick and sage piece of advice to an unnamed friend. Kevin gives us another glimpse into being a father and how to settle a cantankerous little one. While having quality time with her little one, Holly realizes an epiphany and resolves to keep on moving towards her ultimate goal. Rob, the Acidman, Smith confronts his lingering feelings for a past love and describes wanting to feel that way again, and whether the risk is worth the reward. I’m with you, bro. My old buddy Dax describes the typical family movie night. Perhaps all of us singles will make it there someday. Kate takes issue with Kim Du Toit’s stunning piece on the steadily wimping Western male. He sure started a hell storm with that piece. Sugarmama discusses her affinity for her hometown and muses on what it means about herself. Our ever-talented Pretty Girl In The Corner responds to racy suggested topics from one of her readers. Raaar, ba-by, Rar! Vicky shares with all of us the pitfalls and challenges of dealing with and helping an elderly parent. My grandmother is staying with my mother right now for the same reason. Vicky, I feel your pain. Lotus writes a letter to a Boy. Now Lotus, did you go and get a boyfriend and not tell any of us? Amy shows us the difference in what men and women pray for in a mate. While, I’d disagree, it is damn funny! Stasia discusses relationship issues in a lengthy post. And for this week's Ask Adam question, I've had to make one up, since nobody asked (or really care what I think which is more likely. Heh.) So, our question is: What is it about how males in their early twenties are so different from those in the late twenties? This is an issue my good friend the Yeti and I have often discussed, both on our blogs and in conversation. While pondering the whole concept, I wanted to get at the meat of the issue beyond the obvious: more maturity, more experience dating, more tolerant, etc. But, if you really want to know why they're different, you have to look at what the late 20s male mind is thinking and what the young 20's mind is thinking. The late 20s male is thinking: "Well, we'll have a little conversation, have a drink, perhaps it will lead to a something more, perhaps it will not. Regardless, it is a very pleasant way to pass some time and if it does not blossom into a relationship, you still may have made a new friend." The early 20s male is living in and for the moment. He does not have the benefit of his older counterparts to see the long view of things. When you see a young 20s male interrupted by another girl, another guy, anything, his first thought is from the moment, and in that moment, he only realizes one thing--D*amn! I'm not going to get to do "it" tonight! His primary main objective has been precluded and he will not be happy about it, and may even do some rash things. As a late 20s male, I'd like to communicate this to my younger counterpart~~ It's alright, bro. You win some and you lose some. We all do. But, dang, bro, it's not like it's a federal issue. Just keep on trying. And don't even think about doing something stupid. Doing stupid things lower's other people's esteem of you and you may very well lose someone who could have been a good friend. Now, goodnight. To the young 20s ladies out there who are dealing with our sometimes less stable younger counterparts. I am so very sorry. Most of them will grow out of it and be a better man for it. In the meantime, avoid the one's who haven't emerged from that stage and let me get you a drink.
One Fine Jay linked with Enter the Kissing Booth suburban blight linked with Enjoyment that Edifies Southern Musings linked with The Kissing Booth Eager for Tomorrow linked with OK, I Lied Eager for Tomorrow linked with OK, I Lied Comments
you need two more *s in order to keep the rhythm going.. lol.... thanks for the link... i ran out of time to send it to you! Posted by: ho at November 6, 2003 12:24 PMHaving recently experienced a situation where the late twenties man interupted a platonic night between an early twenties boy and myself (early twenties female), I feel it safe to say I understand a bit of the difference between the two. Somehow at the juncture of a man turning 25, he realizes his first vital piece of information about a woman: she is not just wanting to get laid. Don't get me wrong, there is the occasion where all she does want is a good piece of ass, but in general, we're out to do exactly what you said the late twenties man is out to do, make a new friend. Sparks or fireworks may emerge, but not unless the woman is given the attention she deserves. This happens through giving her one simple thing... time. If you immediately run out the back door and jump the balcony because another man has entered the picture, you aren't giving her a chance to make up her mind for herself, you, as the early twenties male, are making up her mind for her. MUCH BETTER!!!!! NOW I CAN SING ALONG WITH IT Posted by: ho at November 6, 2003 01:23 PMYep, now that was stupid. Posted by: Adam at November 6, 2003 06:24 PMBest. Story. Ever... Posted by: TheYeti at November 6, 2003 06:53 PMOf course, as with all things - there's the exception to every rule. Some early 20's guys actually aren't just looking to get laid, whiel some late 20's guys still are. :) Posted by: Ryan Waddell at November 7, 2003 07:42 AMPost a comment
 
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