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October 19, 2003Responding to the mail #1Gentle readers, I never imagined the controversy and debate the “Number” and “Investing” pieces would generate. There has been quite the debate raging in the comment sections. As I have not responded to the stir, I thought I’d take a moment to revisit some of the open issues left by the dialogue from the comments. However, after looking over all of the comments I realized that it was not going to be an easy or brief task. There are so many phrases and sentences that that could generate an entire post on their own. If I ever find myself lacking for a subject to write on, those comments will provide a number of subjects to visit. In any event, I’ll begin by addressing one issue at a time and this one will address whether or not the exercise was an “a**hole” thing to do. First, I offer a confession. Upon reflection, I agree that getting and not calling the number was an “a**hole” type of action. The way I described the young woman was alternately unflattering and complimentary. I had hoped to indicate without saying directly that she was an attractive young woman who I had pre-determined by her dress, demeanor, and manner, observed through limited but close proximate contact, that she was not my kind of girl. The issue of pre-determining is an issue we’ll deal with later. I believe the “a**hole” element can be removed from this aspect of the encounter. Regardless, the fact that I had already ruled her out as my kind of girl, still approached her, and then using my ninety second rule and further confirming she was not my type, yet still pressing forward is where the inherent “a**hole” element resides. After twice discerning that she was not my type, I continued to feign interest to get her phone number in order to illustrate a point to a friend. It was disingenuous. Further from reading many single ladies’ blogs, I have learned a great deal of the “will he/won’t he/why didn’t he call” dynamic. By sticking to my demonstration of the ease of practicing the modern dating game, I also illustrated absolutely no regard for her feelings and that was impudent of me. It was a mistake and from the “Investing” piece, I hope that my regret is well communicated. My intentions were good, but we all know what the road to hell is paved with. I am sorry. suburban blight linked with Baby's Got Sac Comments
Awwww! See, now only a nice guy would apologize like that. Its okay A, its not like you committed the largest atrocity mankind has ever seen. Posted by: Catherine at October 20, 2003 02:41 AMAll is fair in love and war. I don't understand the apology. You must really be a nice guy. I still say she should have done a better job at communicating interest. Post a comment
 
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