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October 13, 2003Silver and GoldBy pure chance today, I noticed an old friend online via the Yahoo messenger. We haven’t emailed or talked by phone in over a year. In fact, when I added her to the friend list a few years back, I did so not knowing if she had messenger or not (she didn’t). Come to think of it, the last time I saw her was at her wedding four or five years ago. She has been living out of state and I’ve wandered around Arkansas and, basically, we just lost track of each other. When I saw her lit up on the messenger I took a shot in the dark and sent her an instant message. To my great delight, she replied. We chatted for a good while catching up on this and that discussing the pitfalls of modern dating. I introduced her to this site and noted a few of the more interesting posts. In any case, it got me to thinking about friends, old and new. Some lost friends we do not miss so much. Primarily because there is usually a good reason we’ve drifted apart. There other friends who we drift apart from due to circumstances either beyond our control or that we fail to control. Those friends I miss and the friend I talked with today is one of them. I am glad she is well and happy to have got the chance to catch up today. Hopefully, we won’t lose touch for as long this time. She was one I always learned from and trusted. She is certainly the kind of friend I want and need to keep around for their counsel and understanding. It also reminded me that there are some friends I have had in life that I really shouldn’t have become friends with in the first place. They have not helped make me into a better person and in my desire to be around folks I have allowed myself to be sucked in. I decided some time back not to waste my time and energy with ladies that I really wasn’t interested in dating and that I knew wouldn’t lead to anything rewarding. Talking to my old friend today, I realized that I should apply a similar filter to the friends in my life. I should maintain friendships with people who are apt to make me a better person. Those that might drag me down should be left to their own devices. It does not mean that they should be abandoned, but rather, those who help raise you up should be apportioned more time and attention than those that bring you down. One final thought on my conversation with my old friend today comes from far back in my childhood. My sister was a Brownie, the preparatory organization for the Girl Scouts. They had a song about friends that she and her fellow Brownies often sang: Make new friends, But keep the old, One is silver, And the other’s gold. I thank God for the silver and gold in my life. Comments
Here here to that. Posted by: Amy at October 13, 2003 06:36 PMOh my God Adam. Where's that box of crackers. CAUSE I JUST FOUND ME A BIG BALL OF CHEESE! Posted by: TheYeti at October 13, 2003 11:57 PMyou're allowed to be cheesy...it's good for the warm fuzzies Posted by: Chesa at October 14, 2003 06:53 AMI knew you were referring to the girl scout song with the title... :) That's not the whole song though.... but it's the best part.... Yeti - I like seeing this side of Adam...... Posted by: ho at October 14, 2003 09:43 AMVery nice! Posted by: lotus at October 14, 2003 11:02 AMPost a comment
 
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