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October 06, 2003Fashion Faux Pas's and SexinessI have noticed more and more tattoos on folks these days. Particularly popular are the designs on the small of women’s backs. I presume that around the same time the hip-hugging, low rise jeans, thongs, and capri’s came into vogue, these tattoos became popular as another adornment to draw attention to the waist and the posterior. I can appreciate the fashion and the artistry of these tattoos when they decorate a slender and well-curved young lady. Unfortunately, not all ladies’ senses of decorum match mine. Looking over, I see an attractive young lady. As she walks away, I observe the low-rise jeans and lower back tattoo. However, her body bulges over the waistband. It is not a severe overflow of flesh, and if anything, the discerning observer can sense that she has an excellent figure despite the hip hugger bulge. In fact, one might not have even noticed if her tattoo had not drawn attention to the area. In an instant, we are shifted from an appreciative view of an otherwise attractive young lady to the cup overfloweth of skin above the waistline. Keep on reading to learn the reasons behind the fashion faux pas's, and the real way to be sexy. More tragically is the proliferation of people wearing clothes that were not designed for their body shapes. The low-rise fad has drilled far down into society and daily you can see much more extreme examples of the aforementioned dress. Pop culture has labeled it as sexy, and millions of mindless minions march as a zombie army to Old Navy, Gap, and any other number of clothiers. They purchase the latest “in” fashions, don them, and emerge in public. I will grant that there are many more channels of wardrobe available to women. With so many options, it is perfectly understandable to use pop culture as a barometer for clothing selections. Regardless, it does not excuse any one from a lack of self-awareness of their body. From our minds, hearts, souls and bodies, we are all unique. Uniqueness requires, perhaps demands, we make decisions that are well suited for our individuality. To appear sexy, one need not rush out and stock their closets with the latest thing Britney Spears wore on MTV or Paris Hilton donned for an E! interview. In fact, tall and slender Paris cannot wear the same clothes as shorter and more curvaceous Britney. With their finances, they can afford tailor-made clothing that fits their unique physiques. And they do. As they should. This is all to say that we should dress for our ourselves and our unique bodies. One can be just as alluring in blue jeans and a sweater as others are in a tank top. A pantsuit and can be just as sexy as a slinky black dress. If it fits you. The clothes never, ever, make the person. However, clothes that are carefully selected and worn appropriately can accentuate the person. A person does not have to be a rail-thin Paris Hilton or a curvaceous Britney Spears to be sexy. Rather, sexiness comes from a place within. It is more closely linked to their manner and demeanor. It is an attitude, a way of carrying yourself, a way of being. Of course, different people recognize sexiness in different ways. Even pr0n has a thriving subset of “big beautiful women” or BBWs. While BBWs are not my flavor, it illustrates that there are different things that allure people. You do not have to wear the clothes anointed by pop culture as sexy to appear that way. Often, those who try to use the clothes to appear sexy without the matching inner confidence fail miserably at their goal. If there are any messages from this missive, let them be these: Be yourself. Dress yourself with clothing that matches your body. Be sexy by being true and appropriate to yourself. And for those who continue to insist on wearing clothes that are not fit for them— STOP. PLEASE. Comments
AHHHHHHahahaha! AyyyyMEN, my brother. Posted by: Jett at October 6, 2003 12:41 PMKnow why women tattoo their names across their backs? Nevermind. A man is supposed to make that joke, not me. A fashion expert would say that hip hugger jeans look best on those with thin frames and also those who are more hourglass- or pear-shaped, rather than those who have wider shoulders and small hips. And let's face it ladies. Black spandex is only "slimming" on super skinny supermodels. It should be illegal for anyone else to wear it in public. Posted by: rita at October 6, 2003 02:46 PMI have to say that I don't find tattoos sexy. I consider them trashy, and I would never date or marry a woman who had one. A woman with a tattoo is also much easier to get into bed. Yes, TheYeti has a point, in that the way a woman dresses and acts has a lot to do with the way men treat her. Nothing is funnier than a woman dressed like a whore who is complaining that men do not treat her with respect. There's nothing wrong with expressing yourself how you see fit - but be aware of the consequences that result from it. I like being treated as "marriage material", and thus I try to look feminine and attractive but to some people, I look overly conservative and boring. Posted by: sugarmama at October 6, 2003 03:38 PMOK, has anyone seen the film "Real Women Have Curves"? I thought it was a documentary (see how closely I was paying attention?) but it's a really cute film, along with several underlying messages (body comfort being only one of them). It just fits into this post and the comments nicely. Posted by: beth at October 6, 2003 06:11 PMI agree with some of the sentiments of this post but others for which I could care less. Personally, I don't want to see anyone's tatoo, I don't want to see anyone's bare middrif no matter how thin or cute they are. I think people should dress appropriately. Yesterday I was at the mall and a girl of maybe 15 was wearing skin tight, low riding, hip hugging jeans with no pockets, her cell phone tucked into her waistband with a shirt that barely covered the top of her. When did this become ok? My mother would have killed me if I dressed like that, although I have never had the body for it. I don't want to see women dressing the way they are right now. Maybe its because I don't feel comfortable enough to dress that way, but moreover I think its because there is something not right about it. Posted by: Anastasia at October 6, 2003 06:40 PMPersonally, I don't really give a flying crap how people dress. 15 year olds in midriff tops? Fine... mine won't dress that way (I say now - I may be JOYFUL if that's all she wants to do) but I don't get offended by it. The only thing that DOES irritate me is when people wear things they obviously shouldn't, like fat people in ANYTHING that shows me their fat rolls. I should not have to be exposed to that. Yuck. Tattoos? Love em. Little bit of pudge over the low-riders? Fine by me, it means she's comfortable with that little bit of pudge, which almost everyone has, and which very few seem to actually be comfortable with. Posted by: Ryan Waddell at October 7, 2003 09:10 AMA girl was sitting in front of me in low riders a few weeks ago. They were so low she had plumbers crack, which also showed me the top of her thong underwear. PEOPLE! For the love of God....check your rear view before you leave the house. Posted by: beth at October 7, 2003 01:54 PMI'm glad nobody has gotten mad or offeneded yet by you writing this. I can easily see some Jerry Springer offspring getting p.o.ed at you for saying that she needs to cover herself up, and that she is a woman and her 250 pound frame is tastefully accentuated by her daisy dukes and alter top. Personally, one tat is about all I can stomach, and if anybody wants to do that to their body, its up to them, I just don't find it attractive. Now whether or not women want to wear low cut tops showing off their busoms, I'm all for it. Less is the Best, as long as they can wear it. Posted by: Zach at October 7, 2003 02:48 PMThe wearing of low-cut jeans combined with a shelf of overhanging belly is an international phenomenon - in my opinion these jeans only look best on skinny, hipless 17 year olds! Enjoyed reading your blog today btw... Fiona I have to take offense to the post made by Rita. Just because a woman has a tattoo does not mean that she will go right home with you and jump in the sack! That is a stereotype that she should really rethink..... as for the hip hugger jeans, some can wear them and some SHOULD not, that does not mean that they won't. At least they are comfortable with their bodies and not on the verge of anorexia. Last but not least, the young girls wearing halter tops and ultra ultra ultra low rise jeans with their thongs hanging out the back...... I always wonder how they get out of the house dressed like that. That's all for me, I have enjoyed reading your posts! Alyssa A tatoo does not mean that a woman is easy, however many easy girls have tatoos. Thus women who wear a tatoo are often expected to be that way. Think about it this way: The bad guys in westerns usually wore black hats. You are watching a western, and in comes a new character, with a black hat upon his head. Until he does something to warrant a different opinion, the audience is predisposed toward him being another bad guy. He can change their view by what he does, but his decor does provides an initial impression (accurate or not). 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