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July 22, 2003New Dating System: First;Sex.®A friend of mine mentioned to me an entirely new concept in the path to finding “The One.” In some very limited, clinical, laboratory trials, it appears to be an effective system. Your humble correspondent has only just learned of this new system and cannot vouch for its effectiveness or potential side effects.
Keep on reading to learn about the experimental new dating system, First;Sex.® The beauty of the First;Sex.® system is its simplicity. A friend of mine tells me of a recent event in his dating life. He and certain young woman started a date by engaging in intimate relations. After completing their intimacies (and he recovering from the ‘little death) they went out on the town. The experience reversed the usual dynamic of a typical date. Instead, the tension of whether DoingIt© was going to occur was fully erased. Instead there is an existing sense of familiarity and intimate knowledge. The couple can be themselves, being real, rather than maintaining the deceptive façade that is a hallmark of early dates when dating as traditionally conceived. With First;Sex.®, a couple no longer worries whether DoingIt© is going to occur, if DoingIt© will be worth it, and mutually rewarding. They are free to focus on whether they are compatible mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. They can now assess the more important aspects of a successful relationship without the clouded judgement stemming from the possibility of DoingIt©. But, wait, (you counter)! This is just like a one-night stand! We know what kind of train wrecks those situations are! Not so—One night-stands are solely focused on achieving intimate relations. There is no consideration of the potential suitability of a person for a relationship. In First;Sex.®, the sexual compatibility is determined in advance and the rest of the time spent together is focused on being honest and discovering if your partner is suitable for anything other than intimate relations (if that). By removing the DoingIt© factor, a person can more easily and completely assess the full compatibility of a partner. Having not personally field trialed this system, I do have a professional and ethical obligation to note potential side effects of the First;Sex.® system. There is a danger of becoming attached for intimate relations alone. There is a danger of having poor intimate relations and then spending the rest of the date trying to escape the from the situation. Having poor intimate relations can also negate the positive compatibility factors from the mental, emotional, and spiritual aspects. Another danger is the attachment or ‘clingy’ factor who equates intimates relations with personal self-confidence and worth. Yet another potential danger is not actually going on the date, opting instead to spend all their time DoingIt©. Despite the potential side effects, the First;Sex.® system holds incredible potential benefits for those of strong mind, honest conduct, and realistic outlook. Those that can reasonably measure intimate capability and the mental, emotional, and spiritual compatibility could benefit greatly from using the First;Sex.® system. Now, gentle single readers go forth and field trial this system and let me know how it works. Comments
Um, While this sounds great and all - I think your buddy made it up. Who's going to fall for this? Posted by: TheYeti at July 22, 2003 02:12 PM*de-blurking* You say, By removing the DoingIt© factor, a person can more easily and completely assess the full compatibility of a partner. I counter with this thought: Go into a date knowing that there will be no sex. Sure there will be the sexual tension, the curiosity, but I think you'd be better able to learn if that person is truly compatible if you wait to have sex. Sex shouldn't be a part of the dating process at all, imho. Posted by: jen at July 23, 2003 01:35 PMPost a comment
 
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