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July 22, 2003When Helping Folks Out© EndsGentle readers, you know I’ve been telling you I would end my current Helping Out© relationship. It ended Sunday. I have been at a bit of a loss to describe it. Knowing the hazards of practicing the advanced levels of Helping Folks Out©, it was clear that the end of this liaison would be different. I found myself not quite hurting, but not quite comfortable. It’s not a bittersweet feeling. It is not painful, but it may be wistful. It may be a touch of sadness accompanied by an assured sense of appreciation for her. When Helping Folks Out©, the initial premise adopted is the that in all likelihood, the liaison would not normally occur. Using the basic levels, the partners fulfill each others’ needs without risking the heartbreak associated with other failed relationships. The liaison begins with the further premise that it will not last. The entire exercise is predicated on a fleeting of engagement that fulfills each person’s desires. From that perspective alone, Helping Folks Out© works and works well. HOWEVER--- Keep on reading to know how to cope When A Helping Folks Out© liaison ends... When you Help Someone Out© for an extended time, the inherent honesty and communication allows the partners to grow more close, more quickly/ Such a result is the aim of the Helping Folks Out© system. It builds a relationship, a friendship with intimacy quickly. Honesty and transparency of motive is clear and immediate. An affinity and a level of companionship is established. It is a relationship you value beyond the intimacy. You have gained a friend. When ending a Helping Folks Out© liaison, the practitioner is presented with a challenge. The challenge is the transition from Helping Each Other Out© to friendship only. Let me be clear to the practitioners—It ain’t easy. Initially. You encounter your former Helper© out and it is difficult to know how to react, respond, behave. You are both kind, but not engaged. She is having a grand time, largely because of your intervention and assistance. She never would have felt as unburdened or free without your Help©. She is able to be happy again, free to be herself, , free to be the wonderful woman that she is. Unfortunately, she is all this without your companionship—the one that led her to know she can be free. She is alive again and more beautiful than ever. It is a challenging situation to deal with calmly. To be true to the Helping Folks Out© program, you cannot be jealous. You cannot be jaded. Yet, you want more than anything to be with her again. You cannot. You have agreed to none and you are not permitted to intervene. The honesty that built this liaison now extends into keeping your word. You must stand aside while she enjoys her new freedom and her re-discovered liberty. She deserves it. Yet your mixed feelings are still not resolved. An uneasy feeling persists. It is a trick of the human psyche. You must be strong-minded to overcome it. There is a simple answer to overcoming this condition. Be Happy For Her. Your mission is accomplished. You have Helped Her Out©. She remains your friend and you have the personal satisfaction of having Done Your Duty, As An American®. If you have reached this level of the Helping Folks Out © program you are among the very few who can practice in these hazardous conditions. Be certain, it is very tough to path to follow to this height of skill. It is always difficult at these levels. After attaining it, you may not want to continue. Keep your faith, continue seeking “The One” and one day you will find that very special person. And--- Be of good cheer, Help© is on the way! Be sure to look soon for the next advanced lesson of the Helping Folks Out© program: The Return Helper© Comments
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